Abuse + Denial = Tragedy

The remnants of a family coping with the aftermath of the mother, intoxicated on booze and drugs, killing so many.  It couldn’t be what the coroner said.  It had to be something else.  I get denial. But there is a weird twist to this.  Politicians so often stand before the microphone and say specious things about a topic or issue.  The fact that they speak it makes it true to some.  Politicians create a “truth” irrespective of the facts all of the time.  Isn’t that then what we as a society do when bad things happen?  We don’t take responsibility, we don’t acknowledge the facts.  We create a truth.

This family is wondering if they ever knew the person who caused this terrible loss of life.  And, they are learning from our elected leaders that it is ok to hide behind a manufactured fact than face the hard realities.

Alcohol and Phone-Call Details in Wrong-Way Crash

Published: August 7, 2009 New York Times

The husband of the intoxicated woman who killed herself and seven others after driving the wrong way on the Taconic State Parkway said Friday that they carried the same bottle of vodka every weekend between their home and a campground during the summer.

G. Paul Burnett/The New York Times

Daniel Schuler, center, with his lawyer, Dominic A. Barbara, left, and Tom Ruskin, an investigator working for Mr. Schuler.

In doing so, he offered the first explanation of how his wife may have had access to alcohol on the morning of the crash, on July 26.

Tom Ruskin, an investigator who is working for the husband, Daniel Schuler, said that Mr. Schuler occasionally drank vodka and that his wife, Diane, was so frugal that she packed the same bottle of Absolut in a bag meant for trips between the family’s home in Suffolk County, on Long Island, and the camper in the Sullivan County campground they had frequented for the past three years. He said a single bottle could last a year for the Schulers.

But Mr. Ruskin said Mr. Schuler did not see the bottle that day, and was not sure whether his wife had packed the bottle in the bags he loaded into the minivan that Ms. Schuler drove from the campground. “He did not pack it, he did not see it,” Mr. Ruskin said. “As far as he knows, it is still in the camper, but I haven’t been up there and none of the investigative staff has checked it out as of yet.”

The authorities have said that Ms. Schuler, 36, of West Babylon, had a blood-alcohol level of 0.19 percent, more than twice the legal limit, and high levels of the chemical found in marijuana when she collided, head-on, about 1:35 p.m. with a Chevrolet TrailBlazer. Some days later, a broken Absolut vodka bottle was discovered under a seat in the minivan. Each revelation in the case has led to more questions about a crash that has left a riveted public uncomprehending of the tragedy: Ms. Schuler was killed, as was her daughter, Erin, 2; her three nieces, Emma, 8, Alyson, 7, and Kate, 5; and the three men in the TrailBlazer: Michael Bastardi, 81, his son, Guy Bastardi, 49, and a family friend, Daniel Longo, 74, all from Yonkers.

Mr. Schuler and his family have insisted that despite the toxicology findings, Diane Schuler rarely, if ever, drank, and that a medical problem must have had a role in the events of that day.

Mr. Ruskin said on Friday that phone records showed that four calls were logged on Ms. Schuler’s cellphone in the last hours of her life — two incoming calls and two outgoing ones.

He said that Ms. Schuler called her brother, Warren Hance, at 11:37 a.m., to say that she was in traffic, “running a bit late,” but that her nieces would be home in time for a scheduled performance rehearsal. At 12:08 p.m., Ms. Schuler received a call, but it is not yet known who made the call, Mr. Ruskin said.

Emma Hance called her father at 12:58 p.m. and said, “Daddy, there is something wrong with Aunt Diane and she is having trouble seeing and she is talking funny, she is slurring,” Mr. Ruskin said. That call was dropped after three minutes and Mr. Hance called back at 1:01 p.m., in a conversation that lasted nine minutes.

The authorities, who have recovered Ms. Schuler’s abandoned cellphone, will dig into the phone records as part of a criminal investigation by the New York State Police and the Westchester County district attorney’s office.

Law enforcement officials said on Friday that while misdemeanor charges could be brought if someone knowingly allowed a drunken driver to take off with children in a car, they did not expect to seek criminal charges against Mr. Schuler or Mr. Hance.

Still, the authorities said the criminal inquiry is continuing for two reasons: There is a public interest, since the crash occurred in daylight on a state parkway, and the families affected by the crash are in need of answers.

Lt. Dominick L. Chiumento of the State Police said that Mr. Hance was interviewed by investigators on Thursday, but that an interview of Mr. Schuler scheduled for that day did not occur. The lieutenant said that Mr. Schuler was not interviewed by the police on Friday and that investigators hoped to speak to him “as soon as possible.”

Meanwhile, investigators have spoken to people at a McDonald’s where Ms. Schuler stopped on her way home and determined “that there was no indication of any illness or impairment at the time she was there,” the State Police said in a statement. Ms. Schuler left the restaurant between 10:30 a.m. and 10:45 a.m., the police said.

With the specter of possible civil liability hanging over the case, Mr. Schuler, through representatives, including his lawyer, Dominic A. Barbara, and Mr. Ruskin, has mounted a public effort to say that Ms. Schuler must have suffered some kind of medical crisis before the crash and that they are trying to find out what happened.

In conversations with the authorities before the release of the toxicology reports, Mr. Schuler told investigators that his wife had no health crises, according to one law enforcement official.

On Friday, Rosemary Guzzo, the daughter of Michael Bastardi, said her family was angered by what Mr. Schuler and his representatives said at a news conference on Thursday.

“I couldn’t even watch it, I had to walk outside the house,” said Ms. Guzzo. “It bothered me so much.”

The Westchester County medical examiner who produced the toxicology reports issued a statement Thursday standing by the findings and reaffirmed it on Friday.

The Schulers’ 5-year-old son, Bryan, survived the crash.

Charles V. Bagli, Nate Schweber and Karen Zraick contributed reporting.

Palin says Obama’s health care plan is ‘evil’ [but she is the DEVIL]

Is this Sarah Palin’s America?  Fear-mongering and power-grabs?  Did she read the various committee bills?  I don’t think so.

You say that Obama’s health care plan is “evil”.  That is proof enough that it is a good plan.  Why? Because you are the Devil.

ANCHORAGE, Alaska – In her first communication since leaving office, former Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin described in an Internet posting Friday that President Barack Obama‘s plan to overhaul the health care system was evil.

“Who will suffer the most when they ration care? The sick, the elderly, and the disabled, of course,” the former vice Republican presidential candidate wrote on her Facebook page.

“The America I know and love is not one in which my parents or my baby with Down Syndrome will have to stand in front of Obama’s ‘death panel’ so his bureaucrats can decide, based on a subjective judgment of their ‘level of productivity in society,’ whether they are worthy of health care. Such a system is downright evil,” Palin wrote.

An e-mail sent to Palin’s spokeswoman to confirm authorship was not immediately returned Friday.

Obama, a Democrat, campaigned on a promise of offering affordable health care to all Americans, as the United States is the only developed nation that does not have a comprehensive national health care plan for all its citizens.

He has proposed a system that would include government and private insurers. Republicans say that private insurers would be unable to compete, leaving the country with only a government-run health program. They warn that could leave Americans with little control over their health care.

Republican criticism has included claims that the reform plans will lead to rationing, or the government determining which medical procedures a patient can have. However, millions of Americans already face rationing, as insurance companies rule on procedures they will cover.

Denying coverage for certain procedures might increase under proposals to have a government-appointed agency identify medicines and procedures best suited for various conditions.

Denying coverage for certain procedures might increase under proposals to have a government-appointed agency identify medicines and procedures best suited for various conditions.

In the posting, Palin encouraged her supporters to be engaged in the debate. “Nationalizing our health care system is a point of no return for government interference in the lives of its citizens. If we go down this path, there will be no turning back,” Palin wrote.

“Let’s stop and think and make our voices heard before it’s too late,” the posting said.

Palin resigned as Alaska governor on July 26 with nearly 18 months left in her term. She cited not only the numerous ethics complaints that had been filed against her also her wish not to be a lame duck after the first-term governor decided not to seek re-election next year.

Palin, popular with conservatives in the Republican party, has said she wants to build a right-of-center coalition, and there is speculation she will seek the presidency in 2012. In the two weeks since she resigned, Palin has made only one public appearance, giving a Second Amendment rights speech last Saturday before a gun owners group in Anchorage.

Palin also has been largely silent before Friday’s post. She was a voracious user of the social networking site Twitter, and promised to keep her supporters updated with a new private account after she left office. But that hasn’t happened, leaving some of her fans begging for updates in the past two weeks.

You GO, Jenny Sanford

Your leaving the Governor’s mansion with your boys sets a better example than staying.  Spouses should expect respect, love and support from each other.  Children learn what to expect from relationships from their parents and, too often, TV.  It is just not ok for a spouse to disappear and, upon reappearing, publicly declare love for another person.  That is selfish, and emotionally abusive.  Does Gov. Sanford want his kids to model that behavior? 

Oh I forgot.  Gov. Sanford is part of the C Street group — so holy, they can do what they want.  See Doonesbury comic strip about the C Street guys.  Thank you, Rachel Maddow, for tweeting about this.

2FortySomethingChicksinVegas

I have asked two of my college friends to blog about their weekend in Vegas in two weeks.  Their “handle” is “2FortySomethingChicksinVegas”.

The rest of us college friends will live the trip vicariously and then remember all of the events as if we were there.  That’s how we all live such rich, varied lives — we have each other’s memories.

So, when the entries get a little racy and drunken-sounding, those are my beloved friends slurgging — blogging while drinking.

I can’t wait.  And, I’m afraid.  Very afraid.

Mr. and Mrs. Jones

Let the Joneses win.  If Mr. Jones has a new car in this economy, say “good for him”.  If Mrs. Jones wasn’t laid off, say, “good for her.”  If they spend lavishly, say, “dumbass!!!”

Really, let the Joneses win. You never really know the price they had to pay for all of the things you covet and you don’t know if they are happy behind that successful, conspicuously consumptive veneer.

REUTERS — Crisis pushes men to therapy, women to handbags

Here’s what the recession has wrought . . . .

ZURICH (Reuters Life!) – The desire to sport a different handbag for every occasion is shielding the largest makers of luxury leather goods from the economic crisis as women prove to be more consistent spenders than men.

Louis Vuitton and Hermes bags are still amongst the most sought-after luxury products compared with weak demand for watches, a traditionally male-dominated sector.

Gender marketing expert Diana Jaffe said the uncertainty about jobs caused by the economic slump posed a threat to male identity, prompting men to cut back on spending. Meanwhile, women are taking steps to cheer themselves up with a treat.

“Women are also worried about their jobs, but not to the extent that they feel their mere existence is being threatened and so they are in the mood to buy despite the crisis,” Jaffe said.

Some men have stopped themselves from splurging on flashy goods that could be deemed as tasteless during times of austerity, while others don’t have the capacity to think about spending on luxury items, Jaffe said.

“Many male managers are suffering from a huge loss of status, many feel under an enormous amount of pressure or are suffering from burnout. They just don’t have the resources to think about buying luxury goods and prefer to go to a life coach,” she said.

Banks, insurers and asset managers have slashed nearly 400,000 jobs worldwide since the credit crisis started to intensify in August 2007, hitting retailers who cater to the luxury-loving professional classes.

Swiss watch exports slumped 26 percent in the first half of the year and the industry is grappling with the sharpest drop in demand in some 20 years, while French luxury goods group Hermes posted a 28 percent rise in first-half sales in its leather goods and saddlery unit.

Women are also more used to dealing with change at various points throughout their careers, making it easier for them to cope with this financial crisis, said Eva Kreienkamp, director of marketing agency FrischCo.

“Men are more affected psychologically by the crisis than women. A bag can be bought on impulse, whereas a jewelry or watch purchase is not,” said Armando Branchini, secretary general of Italian luxury goods association Altagamma.

OWN SHOPS

But handbag envy is not the only aspect boosting groups such as LVMH and Hermes.

These players are benefiting from their own extensive retail networks, which make it easier for them to control how much stock is hitting the shelves.

Watchmakers, on the other hand, are more dependent on third-party retailers, which are currently looking to run down stock levels and have put a brake on new orders.

“The difference in the end demand between watches and leather goods is possibly not as big as some figures suggest, but there is still a substantial difference,” said ZKB analyst Patrik Schwendimann.

Handbags and other leather items are also more accessible than top-end watches as they do not cost as much, said Kepler Capital Markets analyst Jon Cox.

“When it comes to luxury watches, these can be big ticket items — at least $10,000 and for more prestige models $50,000 plus. I think the soft luxury category is holding up because it is still more of an affordable treat,” Cox said.

Shoppers of both sexes who are still buying favor big brands, which are seen as a better investment than less well-known names.

Within the watch industry, analysts at Credit Suisse said Swatch Group’s Omega and Richemont’s IWC and Cartier were mentioned by retailers as brands that had held up better in recent months.

Stephan Schuck, manager of the Zett Meyer watch and jewelry shop on Zurich‘s exclusive shopping precinct Bahnhofstrasse, said his female customers just do not appear to be as affected by the crisis as men.

“Many of the women buying in our store are independent or employed and earning their own wage which they manage themselves. These women are paying less attention to the crisis when shopping than men,” he said.

Another wall comes tumbling down

SONIA SONIA SONIA

SONIA SONIA SONIA

SONIA SONIA SONIA

 

Congratulations, Madame Associate Justice of The United States of America.

This IS the promise of America for which my grandparents made a perilous voyage and labored so hard.  

G-d bless America.

Uh oh

My 7 year-old wants to read my blog.  Is there a V-chip for blogs?

There is also the old-fashioned answer: No, dear, you can’t.  Sometimes old-style parenting does the trick.

Bubba rides again

Let’s face it, Bill Clinton has star quality.  As one who loved him (despite his failings), I was ready for him to leave the White House and do his foundation work outside the mass media view.  But you have to give it to the guy.  He can charm a psycho like Kim Jong Il. 

What is all this chatter about messiness behind the diplomatic success.  OF COURSE, the behind-the-scenes is messy.  The photo-ops are supposed to look effortless.  If we saw our leaders cracking under pressure and looking sweaty and tired (except after an invigorating jog), we would think they are weak and we would be scared.

This is not investigative reporting; it is called filling up air time.  Hey, I have a lot of hot air to spare.  Call me and I’ll help out.

The simple pleasures

Today, I got to play with my son before work.  Tonight, a former colleague is coming to dinner on a week night.  In the go-go days, these things would never have happened.

On Saturday night, my partner and I have a dinner date with another couple.  It is hard (and expensive) to find a Saturday night babysitter in August.  So, my sister, brother-in-law and father are coming over to have pizza with our son and hang with him and put him to bed.  Our son is so excited, and so is Grandpa.  We save money on a babysitter and our son gets to play with his favorite aunt and uncle, and his grandpa.

Forget the green shoots in the economy.  Look at the silver lining of the down turn.