My mother, z”l, used to say, “If I had my druthers, I would . . . .”
Druthers.
druth·ers
noun Informal .
1870–75; plural of druther, ( I, you, etc.) ‘d rather (contraction of would rather )
Druthers.
I imagined a box of secret desires that was kept far away from desiring souls. Like a Pandora’s box of hedonist or materialistic desires.
Every now and again, I say, almost absent-mindedly, “if I had my druthers, I would . . . ”
and POB (partner of blogger), interjects:
“I have your druthers and they are happy not wanting what you say.”
“Can I speak to my druthers?”
“No.”
“Can I visit my druthers?”
“No.”
“Are they happy?” I ask with some exasperation.
“Yes, very. And they wouldn’t recognize you.”
So my “druthers” have become “POBruthers”.
I am good with that. That is what 10+ years together means. I trust POB with my druthers.
Be gentle and kind with them, promise?
