So, a person explains this situation to the rabbis: a father, who is recovering from a brain injury, and his daughter are holding hands listening to live streaming of Kol Nidrei services from the computer in the father’s home office, drinking scotch (a make-believe drink for the recovering father) and having hors d’oeuvres. The father and daughter especially say the Sheheḥeyanu together as well as chant Kol Nidrei. The father eats as the daughter watches. The father’s other children call to make sure all is ok.
So the daughter asks the rabbis, what is the Jewish justification for breaking seemingly ALL the laws of Yom Kippur? The rabbis are puzzled.
The daughter wonders how they are rabbis. “Honor thy father and thy mother” is a commandment and code of conduct that pre-dated the fasting and the entire concept of Kol Nidrei.
Honor thy father and thy mother.
Because sometimes the rules have to be broken to observe the highest commandments.
G-d bless Dad and lay the blasphemy on me.